Put yourself at the top of your to do list
Everything you are seeking, you must first be willing, able and available to give to yourself. Real love stems from the love we are able to give ourselves. We often seek outside the very things we are unable to supply ourselves with. We need to open our minds.
Love is the absence of fear. It is trusting yourself and trusting God. Most people do not trust themselves with some constantly double guessing. They are fearful, because they are disconnected. They view their mind, body and soul as different, if anything at all. Chinese medicine treats any physical ailment through gaining knowledge of the patient's mind and soul as well as their physical state. That is because we believe that nothing is separate from another, the body is a whole.
If you feel disconnected and like you do not trust yourself, use meditation, prayer, connecting with God, grounding techniques, Qi Gong, a nature connection and healthy food to boost your awareness.
Where is your trouble stemming from? Do you feel judged by others? If so it is because you are critical of yourself. Do you feel like no one makes you their priority? If so it is because you do not make yourself your priority. So on and so forth. Oftentimes we are so wrapped up in what others are doing to us we do not notice that we are the ones doing it to ourselves. This only ripples the behaviour.
Living in love is an entirely higher state of living, where your natural state is seeing everything through the lens of love. This is a great exercise to practice every day, to change your perspective. Remember, there is always light and love but it is up to you to see it.