In TICM, we look at health wholistically which means that it’s not only important to be careful with the foods we put into or into our bodies, it is also important to take care of our minds and souls. It all works together so nurturing healthy friendships and relationships can be just as important as our nutrition. There are times when eating certain foods feels great to our body but then there are times we are unable to digest that exact same food.
If you were to sit down and talk to any truly successful, happy, fulfilled individual, they would tell you that the people they have chosen and have chosen them to be around are people who share similar values, goals, and are willing to be a truly good friend or partner. They do not surround themselves with negativity or get caught up in a whirlwind of drama or theatrics.
Now, of course, some people will argue that you must keep old friendships or that it is cruel to end a relationship with a person you have known for many years. But our minds, just like our bodies, change over time and it is important to remain in line with what values, morals, goals we hold. There is a beauty of having old friends that I will not deny, but history alone is not enough to bring an old friendship into the present, and subsequently, the future. The people you surround yourself with you will become.
Your friendships, just like everything in your life, need updating. They need to be reassessed from time to time to determine if they are still working in your life. Your friends should bring out the best in you. If you are surrounded by people who bring out the worst in you, then that is a serious red flag that the friendship does not fit in your life.
There are times and seasons for all kinds of relationships in our lives. I am not suggesting that you get rid of every friend who is negative or pulls you down. There are those who have supported you in the past who now find themselves in a tough spot and are in need of your support. That is the natural give and take of relationships and should not be confused with a toxic relationship. True friends are the ones that have the courage to tell you when you are losing your way. They care enough to have those difficult conversations that most people will avoid.
If you want to have greatness in your life, surround yourself with great people. If you strive to be a happy, fulfilled, honest, confident, empowered and principled person, surround yourself with people who are the same. This is not selfish and heartless. Because if you are influenced negatively by someone, it will affect how you are with the people who love you. Once you allow a negative force to permeate your life, you hurt yourself, which ultimately affects everyone that surrounds you. Think about this idea like a chronic ailment or leaky gut, if something is affecting your health negatively, I always say, do your best to heal and solve the problem.