Communicate. Even when it's uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the most profound ways to heal, is by simply expressing yourself from your Heart. When doing so you must do so without any expectations, and though this is hard to fathom, you will see once you speak, the instant after, you will feel free.
The freedom is not dependent on how the other person responds, it is all self made. As we’ve spoken about many times, Fall is the season associated with the Lungs. Feelings we keep inside cause us both mental and physical pain, manifesting into symptoms often related with the Lung with pain in the chest, asthma, breathing problems or the colon: constipation, which is a physical way that we hold onto the past.
This communication can even be with yourself. Understanding your emotions and why you feel a certain way is also a sense of freedom as you are in control of how you feel no matter what happens.
In TICM, we say that everything happens for a reason. Because of our connection to nature, we don't look at a cloud and scorn it for blocking the moon, we know that this is only the way the clouds move and accept it for being what they are and still appreciate both the cloud and the moon's beauty. What if we looked at each other like that? What if we appreciated ourselves and our feelings and learned from them, saw them from an angle that allowed us to grow?
The emotion connected to the Lung is grief, if you want to cry, it is healing to do so. You are turning emotions into a physical object: a tear, and letting it go. Cry and take a nap. This is a way to heal. Write down how you feel. Understand your boundaries and what makes you feel comfortable. Express yourself and connect to yourself. Only you know how you feel, no one else can dictate that or tell you. The more you continue to communicate the easier it will be and the more free you will feel.
"It's good to talk" ~ British Telecom (BT)